this few days i am back to being cranky again...

mummy suspects it is because of my molar toothing again...

had a slight fever back on monday... ...

am refusing food at mealtime, drooling and chewing off my bottle teats and the pacifier to the corner of my mouth... ...

hopefully soon it will be over... ...

and I am going for my first playgroup (parent-accompanied) session today!!
mummy is pretty excited about it... ...
wonder if I will refuse to enter the room??

The Toughest Job on Earth!

Being a Daughter-In-Law who is also a Mother at the same time... ...

Why?

Because, usually the man (husband) cannot be bothered to care much...
and everything else is left to the wife...the kids, the household, the future, the plannings etc...

Today I share with my hubby that I don't really fancy Asher watching cartoons like Doraemon at this age. Not too much at least. Not like repeating the disc over and over again...
What can he possibily learn from Doraemon? No doubt, it can be entertaining, but to be watching the same disc over and over and over again is really too much...
Hubby says:" Do something about it then. Too much of complaining from you doesnt do anything too..."

I am pissed. "too much of COMPLAINING??????????!!!!!!!!"
I am just telling him what I think and NOT complaining.
What can I do anyway?
I do not even know where I stand now.
I do not even dare to be firm on what I want for my kids now.
Because, I will be deemed at COMPLAINING!
No wonder my FIL thinks I complain. COS' my hubby now makes the same comment too.

What is wrong with just wanting to teach my kids the way I think it should be?
Many things I already do not interfere...and learn to close ONE EYE, sometimes TWO.
Becos' I believe they do too...sometimes closing both eyes. SO it is important to compromise.
BUT WHY IS IT THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND AND CANNOT UNDERSTAND??!!
Saying in direct and tactfully, still people say you calculative and so on...
Being nice and try not to think too much of it...people say you hypocrite...

Being a DIL, why can't I just behave like a man who is a son-in-law to my family...
not to be bothered and don't have to care what my family thinks of him?
Why being a DIL, I have to care for my hubby's family like my own and yet end up in this way?

I ask myself...
I tried my best to be a wife to my hubby...
to play a supportive role to him be it in his work or family...
I cook for him whenever I could...
I make tea for him when he comes home...
I take care of his household etc...
DID MY HUBBY TAKE CARE OF MY FAMILY like I TAKE CARE OF HIS FAMILY???
Perhaps no...but i never complain.

I ask myself...
I tried my best to be a dutiful and respectful DIL...
helping in whatever ways I can...be it caring for the folks, helping with household bills and at least some chores, plans for them etc...

I ask myself...
I tried to be a mummy as much as I can...
reading up, learning and being hands on as much as I can and yet still remember to make time for the folks to have the grandson in their hands and company...because I know they dote and love him too.

Despite the fact that I have my own career, work and family like my mum and siblings to care for too...

But sorry, you will never be appreciated.
Because you are just a DIL. I never use to think this way.
I need to change.
Maybe it is my problem. It should be.

Ikea Trip & the Defender...

11th Jan 2010

Daddy & Mummy brought me to IKEA!
We went to buy a quilt cover for Little Ayden... ...

Mummy love this photo!
It looks cheery...

Keeping myself entertained on the trolley
with a measuring tape...


i look rugged right?

Hi 5!

trying to break free...

Our Defender!!
No more soon... :(

i just can't get a pose right...

Mummy & I!
... it's obvious daddy's focus is on the Defender and not us...

this is better taken right??

I am sure all of us will miss the Defender...

one more month and I will be TWO!!

Everybody says I have become very obedient nowadays...
They wonder if it has got anything to do with the arrival of my little brother Ayden...

Changing diapers and clothes for me is no longer as challenging as before...i will position nicely to get changed most of the time these days rather than running around...

When mummy says it is bed time or bath time, I will follow or if I am not ready yet, mummy will give me a time frame of 10 mins or so to get ready and I usually will say OK...and then follow when time's up... :) Mummy is super pleased with this...

When Ayden cried earlier today, other than patting him, i even brought my bolster and Ayden's milk milk to Ayden...

playing with the hats...

banana snack time..

outdoor bath time!

sunning...

trying to swim...
no swimming pool in my house...what to do...

drawing, writing...NOPE...it is SCRIBBLING time!

selecting my crayons...

riding time!
WAIT! there is a pedestrian...

I got to stop and give way!

riding up the grass patch...
mine is a 4 wheel drive!

hurry up!!

Oh! Pedestrian...

Got to move to the side to give way...

hey...i want to go CC...

these days I always like daddy to piggy back me!!

i go:"back.back" and climb onto daddy!

so sweet right....
Daddy & I...

We went Macdonalds....

exploring the pond...

walking back to our car...
Daddy & I hand in hand...

Mummy brought me to a wedding dinner...
I ate on my own...

I CHEERS! so strongly with Uncle Lester and Uncle Barry

that Uncle Lester's red wine spilled onto his pants... ;p
They were taken aback by my strength... ;p

I am really serious about my blog...

don't play play hor...

Playing peek-a-boo with the character on TV...

These are the recent Asher.... .... CUTE?! COOL?!

hehehe...

Inspired??!! Quick go have a baby like me!!!! hahhahahahah

My recent progress...

I am such a big boy...mummy often comment.
She feels it seem like a am so mature now...though I have yet to hit 2 years old.
Especially at times when I wake up from my nap/sleep, instead of crying, I will stand or sit or even squat there in the room for a while, before I walk out of the room myself in a very cool manner. Sometimes I even walk out and say "Hi".

I can say alot more words now and usually I can pick them up almost immediately except that my pronounciation is not so accurate.

Mummy recently taught me to say "Ai Ni" and "I Love You".
There are also quite a number of words that I uttered out on my own so accurately that kind of startled and impressed mummy. So babies really do learn and will say out on their on much later when they are ready. So talk to us more when we are young...dont think that we dont know or dont understand...one day when we say out the words, XIA SI NI ah!!! :D

I have grown too. Now I am about 87 to 88cm in height and weighs 12.3kg.
And of recent, I will say "wet wet" to tell mummy my diaper is getting too heavy and too wet.
My poo signals are getting pretty obvious too...sometimes I even say "poo poo" on my own.
But I have yet to be diaper free lah...mummy is not too much in a hurry to get me off the diapers...

Most of the letters in A to Z, I can recognise and relate to a particular word that represents it...like "K" for "Kite", "A" for "Asher", "D" for "Daddy", "M" for "Mummy", "C" for "Car" etc...
I can also recognise the numbers 1 to 9... ...
except for ZERO "0"....i still think it is an "O" as in the letter "O"...
Mummy is now trying to introduce 10 to 19 to me... though very slowly...

Although I am not reading my storybooks as often and regular as before, I am still able to relate to the stories everytime mummy reads to me. These days we also do alot more on "picture reading"...mummy will show me pictures and ask me to find the things in the picture and say some discriptions to me.

Language and conversation, interpretation, understanding and expression wise...mummy thinks I am developing pretty ok. I can understand "2-stage" instructions le...

Mummy has the least worries, in fact NO worries at all for my gross motor skills development. Jumping, climbing, walking, hopping...I probably score 110 over 100...heheheh simply because I am sometimes TOO "able" le...i climb with no fear. (Mummy's only worry in this aspect is I will be too active to handle in future.)

As for my fine motor skills, should be ok too. I have been able to drink soup from a bowl on my own, drink water, juice from a cup, eat on my own using a spoon and bowl... ...pick up tiny things using my two fingers...

Social skills etc...hmmm I am still learning...
learning to share and take turns... sometimes i can do it, sometimes i can't.
But I will try.
;p

Mummy's Voice: Mummy's note to Baby Asher

Dear Baby Asher,

You had mummy so amazed with the care, concern and generosity you had shown to your Little Brother Ayden who came...right from Day 1.

The way you rushed over to check out your little brother when you hear his cries, the way you pat pat him, your willingness in sharing your toys with him, your initiative to bring your bolster to him when you see he has none, the way you acknowledge him as your "didi"... ...
Mummy is so glad you have not been overwhelmed by jealousy which many uncles and aunties has shared with mummy.

For this, mummy says a BIG THANK YOU to you Baby Asher, for being such a great loving brother, eventhough you are still pretty much a baby too at 22 months old...people says TERRIBLE TWOS... ... I hope you stay the way you are to your little brother. ;) Because of your great understanding and acceptance to your little brother, that has made mummy's life so much better. Thank you Baby Asher. I love you!

Of course, with the Little Brother coming into the family, in fact as early as when mummy started to feel heavy during the pregnancy, clumsily moving around with the big tummy, mummy as slacken in my care for you...in terms of the activities I do with you...reading of books etc all has not been as regular as before. This Mummy says a big SORRY to you. But I hope with the Little Brother joining the family, you will have a playmate and will not be lonely next time.

You had the most attention from me when you were in me, when it was ONLY you around in the family. So please understand that with more siblings joining the family, in this case, Didi Ayden, you will have to learn to SHARE EVERYTHING and take turns.
Share the attention from Daddy, Mummy, Grandparents and everyone else.
Share your toys, books, bolsters, food etc...

When you are old enough to read and understand the rationale behind this post, just remember what mummy wants you to understand is... ...

Whether as the number 1 baby or number 2 baby or more... ...
All of you are important to Daddy and Mummy, important to the family.
We love all of you with no differences...but sometimes each of you may be loved in a different way.
Some things in life are beyond our control and the chain of events that happen thereafter are inevitable.

So never compare. Because each of you are unique and individual.
Each of you are just as important to us.

Loved,
Daddy & Mummy!

1st Post on the 1st Day of the year 2010!

Do you think we look alike?

Me at 12 days old.

Didi Ayden at 16days old.

We are blood brothers!